ATTRACT SUCCESS NOW!
Impress and Inspire Others Without
Speaking a Word
By Romanus Wolter
When you walk into a room,
isn’t there someone who stands out from the crowd? You
may have not spoken to them but you watch as people are
drawn to their secret positive energy.
The way you feel about
yourself, as opposed to how you try to look, sends
silent signals to others before you utter your first
word. It tells people how you want to be treated. This
unseen dialogue is known as “sizing one another up” and
reflects how you want people to treat you.
Sometimes without even
realizing it, we sabotage new business relationships by
thinking negatively. Our self doubt dismisses brilliant
ideas and partnerships before we even give them a chance
to succeed.
The secret to success is
learning from our experiences, good and bad, rather than
letting them become the foundation for new efforts. To
develop a positive attitude and attract the success you
deserve, simply:
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Bring
the best of yourself. There is no reason to
inflate your self-image by trying to turn self-doubt
into a strength by joking about your weaknesses or
covering them up. You may believe this projects
success but in reality it lowers your self-esteem.
Any action you take to appear strong can be read by
other people as an even greater weakness than it
really is. Your conviction to your goals and your
confidence to ask for help is all people you meet
really expect.
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Turn
your “subconscious outcome meter” to positive.
“It will be too much work.” “Someone else can do it
better.” When you attempt something new, release
your past failures and turn off any negative
background noise that is automatically triggered. As
you uncover any negative thoughts, acknowledge them,
and then release them. You can’t predict the future
so how do you know what you can and cannot
accomplish?
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Stop
seeking the approval of others. Instead of
feeling that you need to control how people think
about you, just state your goals and discover common
ground. You don’t need anyone’s approval to achieve
your dreams. Most people do not have to the time to
evaluate or judge, they are most interested in how
they can help.
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Take
action even if
you are confused.
Catch yourself when
you are about to act from weakness. If you feel
vulnerable, accept it as a natural part of being
human. The “but what ifs” you place on the end of
our thought processes, even without realizing it,
dampen your secret enthusiasm. Let
reality throw obstacles in your way, and agree to
discover the steps to overcome them.
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Keep
silent, and then speak.
Fear often
makes us want to impress others. While participating
in a conversation, cancel any undetected weaknesses
by conducting a quick internal check before
speaking. Does that remark you are about to make, or
the answer you are about to give benefit the
conversation? If not, keep silent. Silence is often
stronger than words.
Simply recognize that you are
in control. You may be able to blame others but that
just digs you deeper into self-doubt. You have
accomplished a great deal in life and in your business,
think positively and enjoy the outcomes.
About the Author:
Romanus Wolter is “The Kick Start Guy”
www.KickStartGuy.com. Reaching over
2.4 million entrepreneurs a month, he provides practical
action steps that close the gap between goals and
success. As Entrepreneur Magazine’s Success Coach
Columnist, co-founder of KickStart Success (www.kickstartsuccess.com),
author of the inspirational and informative Kick
Start Your Dream Business (Ten Speed Press)–Romanus
energizes people to take action and turn their dreams
into realities. Email him at
Romanus@kickstartsuccess.com
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